“I used to think love was about being chosen. Now I know — it’s about choosing yourself and choosing each other, over and over again.”

Fourteen years of marriage.
Fourteen years of growth, grief, joy, misunderstanding, reconnection… and truth.

And if you didn’t grow up watching a healthy relationship, if you were the strong one, the fixer, the parentified daughter — then you already know:
Marriage doesn’t come with a roadmap.
Especially when you’ve spent your whole life overachieving just to feel safe.

In today’s episode of Unfiltered With Franceska, I go live to share the 14 biggest lessons I’ve learned after 14 years with my husband. Not from a place of perfection. But from lived experience — the kind you only gain by choosing to stay, even when it’s hard… or choosing to grow, even if it means letting go.

🎥 Watch the full YouTube Live here:
👉 14 Lessons I Learned in 14 Years of Marriage

Here’s a peek at what I unpack:

✔️ Why “being chosen” is a trap — and what real love asks instead
✔️ How anxious and avoidant attachment sneak into even the strongest partnerships
✔️ The invisible role parentified girls take on as wives — and how to break the pattern
✔️ Why advocating for your needs is sacred (not selfish)
✔️ The truth about divorce, daily choices, and self-completion

If you’ve ever felt unseen in your relationship...
If you’ve had to mother the men you loved…
If you’ve wondered if you’re too much or not enough...
This is the conversation you didn’t know you needed.

✨ This isn’t marriage advice. It’s marriage truth.

Whether you’re married, dating, divorced, or somewhere in between —
this episode will shift something in you.

Because love isn’t the goal.
Love with self-respect, boundaries, and clarity is.

📺 Watch the episode now →
Click here to watch on YouTube

And if you want more raw, daily conversations like this —
join me every day for Unfiltered With Franceska
as I go live while getting ready, telling the truth, and helping you reclaim your power in love, life, and leadership.

🖤
Franceska

P.S.
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